Thanksgiving Break is likely the first time your Deacs will be home for an extended period of time. Here are a few Dos and Don’ts to consider for your reunited family.
Ask them about their friends. Those are the important people surrounding your Deac. You’ll want to get to know them.
Ask them about the classes or experiences they have particularly liked. That shows interest.
Listen more than talk. This helps your Deac have room to express him/herself.
Show support for their choices. This shows your Deac that you trust them to run their own lives and affairs.
Let them sleep in. They will be tired.
Show them some TLC. Tender Loving Care from mom, dad, and loved ones is always a good thing.
Encourage them to seek support if they need it. Remind your Deacs that good self-care – whether tutoring, counseling, mentoring – is smart.
Ask your Deac what his/her major is going to be. That can add pressure to decide when there is still plenty of time to decide.
[Related to above] Say “what on earth will you do with an X major?” Very few jobs require a specific major.
Comment on your Deac’s appearance. If your Deac has gained a few pounds, he/she knows that already and does not want or need a reminder.
Get involved in the details. Those details could be your Deac’s schedule, their plans to go Greek (or not), their intended major, etc. Let your student have the space to sort that out themselves.
Be offended if they want to spend time with their friends from high school. They may need to reassure themselves that those friendships are still solid.
And the biggest DO of all – do have fun!
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One of the best ways parents/families can help their students is to let them solve their own problems. Use the Stop, Drop, and Roll method when your student contacts you with a problem. The flyer also lists contact information for serious concerns where family intervention might be appropriate.
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