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New Environments and New People

We hope that your students are settling in to their new home at Wake Forest.  One of their big early adjustments is managing the daily work of classes, homework, studying, etc.  A second big adjustment is communal life in the residence halls – a shared room, shared bathrooms, shared common space.

Another adjustment your students are likely facing is the idea of new people, people from different backgrounds or walks of life, different ideologies, political affililations, sexual orientations, faith practices, races, etc.  People who have close families, and people whose family relationships are strained.  People who come from idyllic backgrounds, and people who have experienced some challenges.  We have foreign students, first generation college students, some very wealthy families, and everything in between.

For many of us, our high school experience was largely dictated by geography, and it might have been a homogeneous existence.  Same type of people, same hometown, similar regional attitudes or behaviors.  In college, all of that changes.   So now your students will be interacting with other people who are new and different.  That can be exciting, disconcerting, intriguing.  Some students relish the idea of learning about other students’ beliefs and backgrounds, and others might be more reticent, particularly if they disagree with – or are conflicted about – the other person’s stance or worldview.

We live in an increasingly flat world, one where the internet has helped erode boundaries between countries and cultures.  Your students will one day go on to work and live in this flat world, and they will certainly encounter people different from themselves.  The most successful people will likely be those who are able to navigate these differences with compassion and understanding.

So now is the time for students to begin to get comfortable with new people and different ideas.  It does not mean your student has to change his or her beliefs or adopt practices that are not genuine.  It does mean students should change who they are.  It does mean they ought to consider how they can learn about other people, understand their differences, value their common humanity, and be respectful of one another.

Parents and families can help encourage their students’ personal growth by challenging your students to go outside their normal comfort zone.  If your student has not had a chance to study abroad or meet people from different cultures, encourage him or her to take advantage of campus activities for international students.  If your student has never met someone from a different faith practice, encourage him to get to know others of different faiths and have meaningful dialogue, while respecting each others traditions.  Exposure to new things doesn’t just mean people.  If your student has traditionally been more of a sporty type, encourage him or her to go to a campus artistic event.  You get the idea.

Part of what we hope students will do at Wake Forest is stretch themselves.  They get a lot of mental stretching in class through their academics, but a holistic education means exposure to new experiences, new places, new people.  Stretching yourself can be uncomfortable.  That’s where trusted advisers come in.  Your student might want to reflect on and unpack those experiences with a faculty member, RA, a staff member, counselor, campus minister, etc.

We as adults know that life throws a lot of new situations our way and we have to be adaptable.  So before we send your students out into the Big Game, we want them to get practice with some curve balls here.